For most women it’s not hard to become a mom. Of course, that does not discount those who have been unsuccessful in their attempts to conceive. Still, for the majority of people, getting pregnant is easy. And it’s certainly common. Then comes 40 weeks, give or take. Weeks and months of nausea, heartburn, cravings, insomnia, and a swelling body that grows, nourishes, and protects a baby. Mama waiting for the day that little one can be held outside her body. Sometimes patiently, and sometimes impatiently, planning and preparing and praying.
As tough as it can be, it’s temporary. And in the grand scheme of parenting, that’s not the hard part either.
No – I say the hard part is mothering.
Nursing or making bottles. Changing diapers and rocking baby in the middle of the night. Kissing boo-boos and putting the band aid on just right, even if it isn’t really needed. Driving the car pool, going on field trips, teaching the Sunday school. Helping with homework and cooking dinner. Grocery shopping and doling out lots (and lots) of snacks. Taking loads of pictures (and never being on the other end of the camera). Planning birthday parties and (spoiler alert) playing Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy. Cheering at the football game or dance recital…or soccer or piano or whatever. Buying clothes, school supplies, and the latest gadgets (hello fidget spinner). From teaching them to ride a bike to teaching them to drive a car. Staying up until they’re home and tucked in bed. Late night chats and countless lessons. Listening and loving no matter what. This and so. much. more. That’s the hard part.
Whether or not the child came from your womb. Whether or not you are legally “mom”. It’s the mothering that makes you a mom. And mothering is the hard part. So, on this Mother’s Day, I want to wish all you “motherers” a Happy Day. A pat on the back. A whisper in the ear – Good job, mother. You’re doing the hard part, and you’re doing it well.
Happy Mothering Day!